Thank you for being a friend..
A twenty-two-year marriage and friendship!
The blessings continue because my best friend is also my husband. Yes, my husband! Even I can't believe how close we are sometimes. Before I met my husband (over 22 years ago), I didn't think marriage would be like this. I come from a broken childhood. Not only was I raised by my grandmother, but my mother and father were also divorced. Throughout my childhood, my mother married multiple times. Never staying married over five or six years at a time. So you see, my first impression of marriage was not a good one. I didn't have the best examples of marriage growing up.
By the time I met my husband, I had already been married once and had two children. My first marriage was a complete disaster filled with mental and physical abuse. After leaving my first husband I really didn't think marriage was for me. I remained single for a few years with the intention of not getting married again. I was content to raise my children and live my life without the bother of getting into a relationship. I thought all men were possessive and controlling. I was also hesitant to meet someone that my children might not like? So I settled down into being a single mother and continued living my life.
It's not that I wanted to be single, but I was very fearful of what another relationship would look like. So I prayed. Yes, I prayed! I asked God to help me! If I were to ever get married or in another relationship, God would have to send him! I wasn't having the best of luck picking boyfriends or husbands. Every time I picked a man that I thought was right for me, it ended terribly wrong! So if it were to ever happen again I didn't want to go through the same grief of break-up and heartache. And I most certainly didn't want to take my children through any trama! So Lord, if it's meant to be (me being in a relationship) you'll have to send him to me!
Then he showed up! Who would have thought I could meet the man of my dreams at a baby shower! Hahaha! A friend at work was having a baby shower and invited all of us girls from work. I went to the baby shower (with a gift in hand) never thinking I'd meet a man there! But that is exactly what happened! When we first met there was an instant spark! We talked all night the first time we met! Because of my past, I took it very slowly. I didn't rush anything, I just went with the flow. The more time we spent together, the closer we became. We kept dating for over a year before he asked me to marry him. All the while getting closer and closer! We connected on a deep level. My children loved him. All I had to do was trust what God had sent me! It seemed too good to be true! I didn't want to believe it would last!
But it did last! We did remain together, continuing to grow closer every day! Sharing, loving, laughing along the way. We married in 1996 by a justice of the peace officer. We were both nervous. Hubby had never been married before. He hadn't ever been in a relationship with anyone as long as he had been with me. So he was nervous as well. But we did it! We trusted that we were meant to be and that this was the right thing to do! Believe it or not, we married on a lunch break! After we left the county courthouse we both went back to work. But we came back to work differently than when we left. We were both happy and excited!
Time went fast after that... Hubby has helped me raise my children and to build a life. We have seen each other through different marriages, graduations, family reunions, births & deaths in our families. We've had good times and bad! The main thing is through all the things and situations we've been through, they have all made us stronger as a couple. Our love for each has continued to grow! We only want the best for each other and we talk about everything. Even when times have been tough, we have stayed strong and weathered the storms together. On the rare occasion when we disagree, there's never talk of divorce! We have always managed to work everything out without being angry with each out for too long.
As the years have gone by, we are both getting older. We have seen each other through many trials and tribulations, but again they have only made our love grow stronger. The spark between us burns bright and strong, still to this day! I look forward to spending the rest of my life with this man God sent me! I have so much to be thankful for! None of this would have been possible without my prayer for God to send me what I needed! I had no idea it would work out like this! I have never been so happy in my life! It is truly a blessing to have someone to share your life with (especially these days)!
In closing, I just want to thank hubby for being a friend! Because of his love and friendship, I am free to be myself! The main thing that has held our relationship together (besides love) is friendship! Thank you hubby for twenty-two years of love and friendship!
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